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Are You Still Dating Like Your Are 18?

Are You Still Dating Like You’re 20?, Dating in middle age, dating over 50
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BY LISA COPELAND

Doesn’t it feel like just yesterday you were in high school or college?

Chances are you still wear jeans and if you’re like many women our age, your hair is longer than your mother’s, who likely cut her hair when she got married.

With vibrant memories of your school years still floating around in your head, most of the time you don’t feel or look like you’re in your 50’s and 60’s.

So now that you’re single, you’re out there looking for members of the opposite sex like you would have back when you were in school.

But instead of wanting the handsome football captain or cheerleader, today you’re looking for the older version… a man or woman who is successful, good looking and charming.

So you go online with your 20-year-old mindset and who pops up? 50 plus year olds who look like your grandparents did with grey, thinning hair, a belly and a boatload of baggage.

No wonder it seems like no one’s out there to date – they all seem too old for you!

But the truth is, you have your stuff too. While men are balding, women are probably finding strands of hair popping up all over the place. In fact, if you think about it, hair removal could probably be considered a part time job for us after 50.

You might have leftover weight from 20 or 30 years ago, spider veins becoming more visible every day and hormones that wreak havoc with your system and put the fear of God into anyone within 10 feet of you on a bad day.

A couple of years ago, I remember seeing a picture on Facebook of my handsome high school sweetheart who, by the way, did play football back then.

I was shocked!  The young man I remembered had long black hair and wore cool “painter’s pants.” In my mind, I expected an older version of this man. 

Instead, there he was with snow-white hair and a suit.  Although still handsome, he looked just like his father.

I remember thinking there was no way I could look that old. But I probably do. I just don’t see it.

Recently, a wonderful gentleman told me this story that I feel like we can all relate to. He was getting ready to post his picture on an online dating site and his daughter says, “Dad, Why are you posting a picture of you from 10 years ago?”

He confided in me that the picture was how he still saw himself and he hadn’t realized his face had aged so much since it was taken.

None of us likes to think we are getting older, but we are and so are the men and women we are looking to date.

Some of us have kept our looks and have aged well.  Yet there are others who haven’t.

And when they haven’t, you usually end up passing them by online.

Yet if you’d met that same person in real life, you might think twice about his or her potential because all of a sudden, his or her personality shines and that combined with appearance can make him one handsome man or her one beautiful woman in your eyes.

Attraction is important.  But more important is who is underneath those looks.

Wouldn’t you love to be with someone who will be at your side through thick and thin… who you have fun with on weekends and on vacation… who sees you as attractive even as you age?

He or she is out there and might possibly be one of those people who’s staring back at you online from your computer screen.

If he or she seems nice, take a chance.  This just may turn out to be the wonderful, loving man or woman you’ve been looking for.

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Lisa Copeland is known as the expert on over 50’s dating. Her mission is to help as many women around the world as she can discover how to have fun dating and finding their Mr. Right after 50. To get your free report, “5 Little Known Secrets To Find A Quality Man,” visit www.findaqualityman.com.

 

 

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Lisa Copeland is known as the expert on over 50's dating. Her mission is to help as many women around the world as she can discover how to have fun dating and finding their Mr. Right after 50. To get your free report, "5 Little Known Secrets To Find A Quality Man," visit www.findaqualityman.com.