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How to Boost Your Sex Drive

How to Boost Your Sex Drive
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BY KATHY FOUST

Admit it; there have been many times when you refused sex and really had no idea why you didn’t want it. This might even have happened enough times that you and your partner both are starting to question what, or who the issue is. Chances are that this is having an impact on your relationship, or will be soon enough. A lack of sex drive can mean many things that don’t have to do with how you or your partner fl towards each other. The good news is, you can do something about it!

Ask your doctor for specific tests. Just like men, women function better sexually when they are healthy. Low estrogen levels and even low vitamin levels can cause a decrease in any interest you may have in sex.

Research your medications. If you are taking medications that lower your libido, you may not even realize this is the problem. Talk with your doctor about the side effects or do some research on your own. Anti-depressants are particularly good at lowering the libido, but one can actually raise your libido beyond its normal range. Talk with your doctor about what is right for you.

Confront issues. Sometimes we women tend to hold onto issues instead of confronting them head on. One small detail that has been enlarged in your mind can ruin your sex life. Confront the issue. Even if it leads to an argument, you might be ready for makeup sex by the time it is over.

Pamper yourself. We get so caught up in daily activities that we forget to treat ourselves like red-blooded women who like to look and feel good. Pick your poison. Have your hair done, or spend some time at the spa. If you are looking to avoid high expenses, find a great mani/pedi deal and just get your nails done. These little things make us feel sexy, hence we are more likely to want to have sex.

Give up those insecurities. When we don’t feel good about ourselves or our bodies, we sure don’t want anyone else getting intimate with us. But men are not nearly as worried about things like weight and stretch marks. This is not high school. Experience goes a lot further than the package it is wrapped in. If you don’t feel confident, you know what they say: “Fake it until you make it.” Confidence is sexy and people will notice. If you have been neglecting giving yourself any credit, the world around you sees that. Get yourself out in the world with your chin up and you will notice the way people respond to you.

Limit stimulation to yourself. It’s only natural to take care of your own sexual needs when you feel the need, but if you do this too often, it can reduce your sex drive when it comes time to be with a partner. Try taking yourself to the edge without completing the mission. This will build an inner tension that will help out later, when you are with a partner.

Kathy Foust is a writer who bases her words on her own experience and research. She knows that the hidden depths of the mind can be seen in behaviors, and how people treat themselves.

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