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Dating Rules Over 50

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BY KATHY FOUST

You’re over 50 and taking the leap back into the world of dating. Now you just have to try and figure out what the new rules are. Or, you can stick with the rules you lived by before and hope your plan works for the best.

No matter how old you are when you jump into the world of dating, keep your integrity in mind. You really don’t have to play by anyone else’s rules. If you respect yourself, you inadvertently demand that the world around you do the same. Just keep in mind that things have changed and there may be some unexpected twists and turns for you to navigate.

Open Doors

Men should still open doors for women. Sure we can open them. However, no matter what year it is, women are still the ones who can carry a life within them, or have carried a life within them. It’s not too much to ask for someone to open the door for you out of common courtesy. If he’s forgotten his manners, simply let him get to the door first or stand and wait for him to open the door. Don’t forget that some women may not expect this from men, so it’s not entirely their fault if they forget.

Who Phones First!?

It’s alright to call a man on the phone. Years ago, my grandmother wouldn’t even let me call a male friend for help with my homework. Her basic concept was not to make things too easy for a man or they would take advantage of that. She was right, but today’s world doesn’t frown on women who call men or even ask them out on a date.

Embrace the goals you’ve accomplished. You’ve raised your children, most likely met your educational and career goals, and you’re ready to enjoy life with a bit more freedom. Do it. Don’t be afraid of it. There is no age limit on falling in love, and you’ve likely already put the things behind you that are often the worst stressors on a relationship.

Single is okay, too 

Realize it’s alright to be alone. If you’ve spent your life with someone taking care of you or were expected to wait on someone hand and foot, dating might take you by surprise. Know that going on a date with someone doesn’t obligate you to be in a relationship with a person. It just means you had a nice evening together.

A different game

Know the difference between dating and a relationship. When you were in your 20s, you dated in the hopes of finding someone to spend your life with, to raise a family with. Your goals have changed, and your thoughts about dating need to change as well. Today, dating can be more of a drawn-out process as people reflect on their past and ask themselves what they’re looking for in the future. Dating is the lighthearted fun part. It’s the relationship that takes work.

Kathy Foust a freelance writer who finds great pleasure in searching out the positive things in as many life situations as possible. Her parenting, dating and professional life provide her with unlimited fodder as she attempts to create written works that are informative and often humorous.

 

 

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