Why Women Don’t Mind Erectile Dysfunction
January 23, 2012
BY KATHY FOUST
For a man, there might not be anything more embarrassing or draining to the ego than to have erectile dysfunction. While it’s certainly understandable, sometimes it’s good to shut out the ego and listen to what the woman has to say. Women who say they don’t mind aren’t just being nice. They really don’t mind … and with good reason! Read on:
• For starters, some women have had unpleasant intercourse experiences. The actual act of penetration might be painful for them or just plain unpleasant. The fact that the amount of times a man can have intercourse with them is limited may even take some of the pressure off the relationship.
• There’s more to sex than penetration. Let’s face facts here. Sometimes women want the sexual relations without the intercourse because there are other things that are pleasurable to her. These things sometimes get overlooked as the man strives to meet the goal of intercourse. The lack of ability to penetrate might naturally lead to attempting other things that are more creative.
• Women aren’t there to accomplish a goal. For a woman, sexual acts aren’t about accomplishing a goal. They’re about intimacy and striving to make a partner feel good, even as she is made to feel good. Sex is more about the small touches, the words and all the other things combined. Erectile dysfunction may actually feel like a blessing to a woman who has spent too much time with men who forget about the little things that make her want to be sexual with a man in the first place.
• Erectile dysfunction may even help the woman feel better about her own inadequacies. Even though women don’t see erectile dysfunction as an inadequacy, they are well aware that men do. For a woman, knowing about this is like sharing one of the man’s intimate secrets. This opens her up to feeling like her own secrets might be something she can share with him.
The one thing that woman do mind about erectile dysfunction is hearing about it all the time. Men who worry and complain about it lose that image of self-confidence that women find so very attractive. Women don’t mind talking about something that’s bothering their men, but they also don’t want to have to constantly reassure their men that everything is fine. In fact, the more a man talks about it and worries about it, the more the topic itself will become an issue for the woman.
Resources:
http://www.webmd.com/erectile-dysfunction/default.htm
http://www.webmd.com/erectile-dysfunction/features/a-womans-guide-to-ed
Kathy Foust is a freelance writer from northern Indiana. She likes to educate and entertain her readers with insights about everyday issues.